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Your boyfriend may be suffering from depression. We cannot contact you or your boyfriend but I could also recommend a book for you to give to him - a workbook so that he can work on himself.
I also noticed that you tried to send in a question on BDS, but someone wrongly miscategorised it as Plastic Surgery, making it impossible for me to answer.
However, Let me recommend another great self-help book, this one for you.
This book will teach you how to heal from this very real and troubling disorder.
I wish you well in both situations.
To that end I shall keep you in my prayers.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC