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I have been married for 5 years, my husband turns his phone

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I have been married for 5 years, my husband turns his phone off once he goes out and didn't turn up home last Saturday till 7 am really upset me because I feel our married is not an equal relationship as I am from Cuba and he never takes care of my feelings. I don't know what to do but for sure I feel like I need to leave this unhealthy relationship where is taking advantage of my origin and not absolutely independent despite I do pay all my bills but earn just a little money to support myself as he never gives me any money
Could you please help me with your advice
thanks
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Rafael M.T.Therapist replied 3 years ago.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

I am very sorry to know about this overwhelmingly painful reality you have been living for this long.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Lo que me cuneta es realmente muy triste y muy serio, pues muestra que en lugar de haber venido viviendo un matrimonio real, donde su esposo la protaja, cuide, comprenda, ame, apoye y promueva su felicidad y plenitud plenas, el ha venido sistematicamenet descuidando todo lo relacionado a su vida, y abusandola no solo emocionalmente sino tambien incluso economicamente, lo cual es un absurdo, imposible de justificar si hablamos de un hmbre adulto, casado y que supuestamente decidio unir su vida a la de usted para ahcerle feliz, mas no para aprovecharse de usted y descuidarla asi.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Usted ha venido sufriendo todos estos años esta pesadilla, y no veo que pueda justificar el seguir exponiendose a mas neglegencia, abuso y expotacion. Es ser hispana no debe significar que uno tenga que ser humillada y abusada de forma alguna, aunque bien es cierto que muchas personas abusaran de ello justamenet por su ignorancia y formas distordionadas de pensar, sentir y vivir.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Usted no se siente amada, ni respetada, ayudada ni comprendida, mas todo lo contrario. Siendo asi no veo razon alguna para que siga sufriendo bajo el abuso de esta persona. Por favor ponganse en contacto con aquellos miembros de su familia, amigos cercanos y eprsonas que usted aprecia, que sepa bien que son adultos sanos, maduros, que la aprecien ypuedan ayudar de una u otra forma para que usted se enfoque en este proceso de cambio de vida tan necesario, que no sera facil obviamente, mas si valdra la pena y le permitira reconstruir su vida libre de cualquier forma de abuso, neglegencia. manipulacion o expotacion. Usted trabaja, puede valerse por si misma, y creo que con apoyo adecuado podra salir adelante.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Aqi estoy apara apoyarla en lo posible, por favor sirvase responder apenas puede de asi desearlo. Gracias por su confianza.

Expert:  Rafael M.T.Therapist replied 3 years ago.
Rafael M.T.Therapist says:
11:36 AM
Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
11:38 AM
I am very sorry to know about this overwhelmingly painful reality you have been living for this long.
11:42 AM
Lo que me cuneta es realmente muy triste y muy serio, pues muestra que en lugar de haber venido viviendo un matrimonio real, donde su esposo la protaja, cuide, comprenda, ame, apoye y promueva su felicidad y plenitud plenas, el ha venido sistematicamenet descuidando todo lo relacionado a su vida, y abusandola no solo emocionalmente sino tambien incluso economicamente, lo cual es un absurdo, imposible de justificar si hablamos de un hmbre adulto, casado y que supuestamente decidio unir su vida a la de usted para ahcerle feliz, mas no para aprovecharse de usted y descuidarla asi.
11:45 AM
Usted ha venido sufriendo todos estos años esta pesadilla, y no veo que pueda justificar el seguir exponiendose a mas neglegencia, abuso y expotacion. Es ser hispana no debe significar que uno tenga que ser humillada y abusada de forma alguna, aunque bien es cierto que muchas personas abusaran de ello justamenet por su ignorancia y formas distordionadas de pensar, sentir y vivir.
11:49 AM
Usted no se siente amada, ni respetada, ayudada ni comprendida, mas todo lo contrario. Siendo asi no veo razon alguna para que siga sufriendo bajo el abuso de esta persona. Por favor ponganse en contacto con aquellos miembros de su familia, amigos cercanos y eprsonas que usted aprecia, que sepa bien que son adultos sanos, maduros, que la aprecien ypuedan ayudar de una u otra forma para que usted se enfoque en este proceso de cambio de vida tan necesario, que no sera facil obviamente, mas si valdra la pena y le permitira reconstruir su vida libre de cualquier forma de abuso, neglegencia. manipulacion o expotacion. Usted trabaja, puede valerse por si misma, y creo que con apoyo adecuado podra salir adelante.
11:50 AM
Aqi estoy apara apoyarla en lo posible, por favor sirvase responder apenas puede de asi desearlo. Gracias por su confianza.

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