Thanks, XXXXX XXXXX is reassuring to hear you think he does like me but the fact that he was literally here, there and everywhere all night still makes me feel doubts and he only occasionally came across to me unless I went to him and when I did he seemed pleased but he left me a lot with his friends who I don't know. I would have thought if he did really like me he would have stuck around me more and definitely not asked why I'm not off with another guy! or am I just being really picky, selfish and not thinking about the fact that he was out with his mates and probably wanted to have fun with them and not worry about looking after me?!
Yeah he has only recently come out of a relationship with his first gf who cheated on him as he told me since he met me he realised girls actually can be nice so I do think he has some trust issues with girls, but then again I have trust issues with guys so this is potentially why I think I am paranoid when he disappears. He's told me he really likes me but is not ready for commitment again yet but I am happy to continue as we are for a little while longer to see if he changes his mind but even though this means he can sleep with other girls I know that if he did I would be very upset. I dont know whether to tell him about this or not. Its only been 2 months so I feel it could be too soon to talk like this to him esp as i do really like this guy and dont want to risk freaking him out or loosing him totally.
Ok, so you think I dont really have to worry about his behaviour last night too much? Also, do you have any advice on how I would bring up the trust issue thing with him gently or like what I should say?
ok thanks :) he did remind me though that we arent in a committed relationship or anything which I am already aware of but the fact that we aren't and he was the one to bring it up surely suggests I would be allowed to go off with another (I wouldnt though!)
Ok, he says he's not sure what he wants though so I'm trying not to get to hopeful or attached although that is quite hard! Just like to quickly ask also your opinion on his texting. I know text messaging is not really practical but for like 6 or so weeks he would message me everyday and reply within like half an hour -an hour tops. he then went on a family holiday so we couldnt text but he would message me on whatsapp whenever he could get wifi but then when he returned he got some uni assignments to do which he got quite stressed about and the contact became sometimes every other day and replies would take like hours and sometimes he would just stop mid convo. My friends told me to try not to worry as he did have to do this work and in the end he did actually tell me he found it distracting to have his phone on because he knew if he texted me I would reply and it would be distracting so he just messaged me when he was done for the day if he didnt think i might already be in bed. So i relaxed a little but now his essays have been handed in we have spoken everyday but he still takes a very long time to reply. Like the other night he told me he was just watching a film yet it still took him hours to get back to me. But when he did the messages were long and chatty so i was a bit confused! is this weird or is this just guys?!
Ok, I do have a close friend who is a guy and I spend quite a bit of time around him although the rest of our friends do wonder sometimes if this guy might be in the closet still but whenever my guy texts asking what im doing if Im with my friend ive always been honest and said im having coffee or whatever with Rowan. Recently, I told him this and he didnt reply to me and then a few days ago Rowan drove me to our uni library where we bumped into this guy im seeing and apparently Rowan glared at him! Do you think this could also be a sign? and perhaps I should stop mentioning Rowan so much?!
Ok thanks, so when he takes forever to reply should I also take a while to show im not waiting around for his text or needy or should I not play mind games and just reply?
Sorry to ask again! But last night night he was messaging me but I fell asleep early and didnt reply. Today I apologised for mot replying and asked him how his day was going but 5 hours later I have still not received a reply! Beginning to feel like I am some sort of thing he can use when he's bored or not got anything better to do! Do you think this could be the case?