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You have written a most beautiful love story.
Your name is XXXXX XXXXX I assume that you are also a young woman. Is that a fair assumption?
Although that can be a man's name in UK as well.
I only ask because it might be a cultural barrier with families if that is the case, and I want to see this from the correct viewpoint.
i am a man
Its Vivian full name
That makes it easier. I thought so, but because of your name I wanted to make sure.
You have a wonderful love in your heart for this woman.
Do you think she is in love with you in the same way?
No i do not. she likes me, talks to me freely, i am close to her parents
but way i love her, i dont think so
If you told her, your closest friend, how you felt, do you think you two could remain friends? Would you feel rejected beyond recovery? Would she feel too inadequate to be your friend?
I know that this is your question, but your thoughts are most important.
Thats my fear. I don't want to lose her. Found her in facebook after long. I know we did lose a childhood. I cannot think about her not being part of my future.
Are you willing to take a chance?
I can really feel your tension and spiritual desire bursting through this electronic communication.
Yes. i guess after just making her laugh and having casual communication for last 3 years, time has come. i have to do something.
I just dont have a strategy. Emotions blurring my path
Can you go to where she is right now or will she be back in UK over the holidays?
I may go next year, she is on with an internship there, and only electronic medium we have.
I believe that you must see her face to face and only when you can look into each others eyes.
You may know when you see her what her answer may be and you also may have a change of heart, even if that is impossible to imagine at this moment.
And you might even get the miracle that you have been praying for.
One way or the other, however, you will be a step closure to closure.
I know, but i feel like i have got an opening when she asked me what did i do to thank me for a life long time..i could tell her all about this as a fascinating life event. Is that approach helpful? because waiting another 6 months, well its impossible
Sometimes we have to strike when the iron is hot, as he old saying goes, even if in this case, it could be a little hotter.
If you cannot wait, then gently pour out your hear to her and let her know exactly how you feel and what your dream of dreams is.
gently you say? but how?
As you did in this letter. With open wonderment that certain presented you as a man so full of the highest nature of love. I was so impressed on reading your works so pure and innocent.
In other words, just be yourself and speak the truth from you heart.
but will it feel to her i have made up such a fantasy story. Its hard to believe if i hear this story from her
She knows you all of your life. She is your best friend, and perhaps she is your soul-mate and feels the same way about about you. Perhaps he is your lifelong sister and that would be wonderful as well.
she is really a no nonsense type of girl...
and what does that mean in terms of what you are trying to accomplish? That she will think you are a foolish dreamer and reject you? Perhaps you are the other side of her coin, exactly what she needs to be whole and complete.
I know that this is a daunting challenge, yet you have to do something or remain in limbo.
absolutely right. But as you said its too daunting. But will i creep her out if i just say i was in love with you since i was 8 tomorrow?
You can tell her that there is something on your mind that is troubling you deeply and that you don't want to creep her out or lose her. Tell her you are afraid to tell her, and she will insist that you do. You will get it out.
Make sure the moment feels good and there is time to talk.
Its Christmas coming..i do want to spend another happy christmas with her, haha, but i cannot wait to know her reaction.
Can you combine the happy event with the telling? She certainly won't want to become the Grinch who stole Christmas, of Ebeneezer Scrooge.
Tell he you have only told one other person and that it was Saint Nicholas.
You Christmas wish.
haha, my christmas wish would be see her smiling when she sees my message and understanding what i have gone through
and atleast give me a chance to explain
it as it should be
Well I for one will keep you in my prayers.
I know i am on my own in this but i am really grateful
I hope for a Christmas miracle.
May God bring blessing to you.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
You are so very welcome.
past 2 days has been tough. I clearly want to take this opening and become more closer to her, but i was alone, your prayers may be the start
i start today morning
They come from my heart :)
Is it possible if i can get back to you if i need a bit more inner strength
if its convenient?
Yes it is. I am here a great deal. Sometimes they allow alternate ways as well but I cannot control that.
Just ask "For Elliott Only - I Will Wait "and put a lock on it
I hope to talk to you soon with a more encouraging face, thank you
You are welcome. I await great news.