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Ive known a guy for 26yrs we meet up again and have been text

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I've known a guy for 26yrs we meet up again and have been text for 3months every day.we finally meet up he told e his last relasonship was really bad and now he just wants a quite life. A got really drunk hurt his feelings and just painted a bad picture of myself.i have never been that drunk in my life and am44yrs and I am a really nice caring person. If said am really sorry to him and he said to me. Don't worry it's forgotten about but he still won't talk to me
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Rafael M.T.Therapist replied 2 years ago.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

I am very sorry to know about this overwhelming situation.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

I hope you could join the chat so we could talk about this painful situation.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

In your story you describe how you have known each other for so many years, and apparently how much you were longing to meet again, and I can imagine this was something that truly fueled your expectations and longing for this chance to meet each other to be a unique and wonderful one.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Thank you for joining the chat.

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

Could you please tell me about how you felt when you met him and talked about each other and how it led to your intense reaction?

Rafael M.T.Therapist :

While I wait for your reply I could say tat based on your story, let me know if I understood your experience well enough. It seems that him telling you how hurt he got because of his last relationship, how much he truly needed and wanted a quite life, was the reason he had not to be willing to get into a romantic relationship with you in the present, and that's what triggered your intense reaction, since feeling overwhelmed and rejected by him. Is this correct?

Expert:  JohnMichaels,MS,LPC replied 2 years ago.
Welcome to JustAnswer! I am a Licensed Professional Counselor. Please note, this is not therapy, but information. I do hope I can help you though. I do have a couple questions that might help me help you though. What exactly did you do to hurt his feelings? What efforts have you made to prove your sincerity? Why is this so important to you? Are you that interested in him or simply embarrassed? I really do want to help you. Just answer these questions and we'll see what I can do. Thank you!

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