Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about this overwhelming situation.
I hope you could join the chat so we could talk about this painful situation.
In your story you describe how you have known each other for so many years, and apparently how much you were longing to meet again, and I can imagine this was something that truly fueled your expectations and longing for this chance to meet each other to be a unique and wonderful one.
Thank you for joining the chat.
Could you please tell me about how you felt when you met him and talked about each other and how it led to your intense reaction?
While I wait for your reply I could say tat based on your story, let me know if I understood your experience well enough. It seems that him telling you how hurt he got because of his last relationship, how much he truly needed and wanted a quite life, was the reason he had not to be willing to get into a romantic relationship with you in the present, and that's what triggered your intense reaction, since feeling overwhelmed and rejected by him. Is this correct?