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There is no doubt that he is playful and likes banter at work, but whether he knows it or not consciously, he is still very attracted to you as you are to him.
There seems to be a great deal of chemistry between the two of you.
Have you asked him out to the pub yet? I would imagine you haven't.
If you are interested in trying to get closer with him then you will have to make some kind of small gesture.
It's not YOU who is the bad influence. It is his own thoughts. He likes you. Your very presence is tempting to him and he doesn't want too much office gossip, even thought there is already plenty of talk. It is not hard for others to see that you like each other.
I think you need to ask him out to the pub and talk one on one. It must be casual but if there is something there between you then you will know, outside of the stifling environment of the office.
You have to start somewhere.
I have not been there to observe your interactions, but if he stares and stares at you it means that he is deeply attracted to you. He can't take his eyes off you. You only do that to someone you have fallen for.
He can't say "no" if you don't ask him.
Yes I can.
I look forward to talking to you later and will save and exit.
Come back later. We need to sort this.
Except for a cold, I am fine and kicking. How are you?
I can understand that his inconsistent behaviour is very stressful to you.
He is not very mature - like a little boy.
He is fascinated with you and probably flirts with older women because they are somehow safer for him.
I think he likes you on an emotional level, but when he thinks about it on an intellectual level he thinks about his girlfriend and thinks that others will say something against him because you are older.
If nobody else was around you might not have a problem.
When a man cannot take his eyes off a woman then he is fascinated, enthralled, hypnotized, strongly attracted by her.
You are absolutely right. He IS embarassed to like you and that is why he calls you BMA and backs off from you.
He is afraid of his own feelings.
If you want a real relationships with him then you will have to see him outside of work. If he is not able to do this then you will have to back off from him.
He is embarrassed because you are older, and perhaps because you come from another country.
What country do you come from?
If he doesn't reply to him, don't mention it.
He is keeping you at arm's length and you are allowing him to.
Why won't you ask him to go out with you?
Just for a drink after work?
Tell him that is what best mates do.
Talk is one think, but without action it doesn't mean anything.
Tell him how you feel.
That is why you need to go out to the pub and get comfortable and talk and sit next to each other.
But it bothers you and you do not have to have this friendship on HIS terms. They can be on YOUR terms as well.
And that tells you he is physically attracted to you. That is the proof.
He is shy. You must help him.
It is up to you to take charge of this. You cannot wait for him.
If you cannot move this relationship forward you will become annoyed with each other and that will lead to the end.
.We are starting to go around in circles. It is up to you to get to him outside of work so that others are not there. He doesn't want to do this publicly. Of course he fancies you. You should already know that. It is very clear from what you say.
Because maybe he is afraid that someone will see his text.
He fancies you and you fancy him. Don't get him at work. You have to ask him out for a drink after work so you can be in a comfortable place. Not work.
So you have three choices. 1) Keep having this flirty, unfulfilled relationship 2) Take a chance and see if you can get together 3) stop flirting with him and establish more distance.
He might not want a written or electronic record of his communications with you.
He likes you a lot but is afraid. You must take the lead.
Well you need to help him grow up and become a man.
Sure. Sounds like a plan ! ! ! ! ! !
Sure. You are getting great treatment from me because I like you and want to help.
I'll be waiting for your response and will save this chat. You can consider a suitable bonus when we are done. I am here to help AND to make a living. :)
Major chemistry. Talk soon.
Thanks. I am fine and trust you are as well.
He seems to be very immature.
Acts like a little boy. He is not interested in how you feel. He just wants you to pretend everything is OK. Be bubbly. Don't worry.
That's not real ! ! ! !
His behaviour naturally affects your feelings but he doesn't want to know.
There is a big difference between talk and action.
If pulling away helps, then you need to pull away a bit more.
Not mature enough for a real relationship.
If that is all it it takes to push him away then you don't really have anything but a superficial connection and you are making too much of it.
Like an office pal. He may have some fascination with your looks, but he probably thinks you are too old for him..
He is a bit emotionally unstable because he is immature. He likes you but he doesn't want to do anything about it because of your age difference, because of he talk in the office and because he has gf.
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