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Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about this overwhelming situation.
I can imagine how frustrated it could be for you to face the fact that your boyfriend wants to end your relationship this many times in this short period of time you have been dating, but only you know how painful it feels.
When a person develops depression and does not really commits to work on rehabilitating from it, or from anxiety, personality disorders, addiction or any other mental health problem then life could become very dysfunctional, and relationships would suffer for sure too.
Could you please tell me what gives you hope your boyfriend would change his mind and be able and willing to truly work on his rehabilitation process and on your relationship, once he is refusing to continue an d is openly telling you he only wants to play games in the computer?
That's very concerning and frustrating. How do you feel now?
His words and behaviors really seem to show how immature and unstable he could be.
All the serious issues you previously mentioned would not disappear because of his irresponsible and childish ways to address things. He seems to have an addiction to computer and games, besides of depression and personality problems, otherwise he would not present these instability.
I hope he chooses to take responsibility for his feelings, choices, actions and problems, and commits to mature and rehabilitate from these core issues, otherwise I do not see how your relationship could evolve, instead of perpetuating same dysfunctional pattern.
I am very sorry to know you suffer of this terrible trauma.
Now I see why you feel this attached and grateful to him. At the same time explain why you have been having a hard time coming to terms with the fact he has serious personal issues and mental health problems he has not addressed, and unless he gets treatment, he would get worse.
I truly hope you could take good care of yourself and that he respects you, ends any form of manipulation, neglect or abusive behavior and commits to his rehabilitation process, since only by taking full responsibility for everything that depends on him as a real adult, he would be able to build a healthy and fulfilling life as an individual, and in relationships.
Please feel free to contact me if you have any further questions and to follow up, since I am here willing to support you as possible.
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