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I was in a relationship with my ex for 6 years. Not all of it happy. The last 2 years he'd been out of work and was depressed. The last year particularly had been tough. We were drifting on and off and many times I told him it wasn't going to work. He did during this time ask me to marry him, I said def not especially as he was not working. In October he got a job and I said it would be baby steps getting back on track but things were starting to thaw. He then became a bit elusive, being vague about meeting up etc. I wondered if he'd met someone, this was in November. His daughter told me he had. It was a woman 18 years younger and foreign and also homeless, ie hadn't got anywhere to stay.( he is 52 btw ). I flipped when I heard this and have sent him many angry emails and then afterwards apologised. I realise I maybe shouldn't have. I've met him once since to talk about it.
We were to meet for a coffee but ended up spending the next 9 hours together in a bar and drinking. He said he still felt the same about me but he has moved on now and happy. I'm devastated particularly as I have an operation tomorrow which I'm worried about and he hasn't even texted me or rung or anything. Stupid question maybe.. Will this situation ever change do you think ? He says it's all stressing him out and he can't sleep properly, but otherwise has not given me any indication he gives a fig. He's giving up my daughter to who he loves and her children. Update :On the day of the operation I received one curt text wishing me good luck and that's it. I have begged him via an email to reconsider giving us a fresh start and he didn't even reply. He adored my granddaughter who is 12 now and my daughter. My daughter also texted him telling how she wishes he'd see sense and nothing. Is there any hope for me/him at all ? What do you think? I'm giving up now :( Thanks x