Thank you for your question. I have helped you before on your last question, so I know your situation very well.
Her going to see a counselor will help her better understand her feels.
It will also give her a chance to talk about how she feels about you and the counselor will guide her in the right decision for her life.
She is going through a lot of women changes which is effecting her hormonal balance.
She is just plan not feeling good about herself. It is very hard going through the change of life and also she is having complications.
It's very hard for anyone to understand unless they went through it. It would be very helpful for you to read about what she is going through. I think it would help you better understand her mood swings.
It is important that you know these emotions that women go through when they are experiencing menopause. It will also show that you are concerned and there to help her through all these problems she is having.
She seems to be having a problem with you not being their when she needed you and she felt alone at times.
Even though you had to work to build a better life for your family. She does not see it that way. She sees things in a new way that you were not their for her.
Right now she is pushing you away because she does not understand her emotions.
You need to show her that you have changed and everything she has gone through made you realize even more how much you love her.
People react differently when they go through things in life. You can look at your life as you need a change or you can settle back into your old life. But people usually look at life differently.
They feel that all they went through they need to change and live their life in a new way.
I feel she is looking at her life and thinking about all the things she wants to do and all the things she feel she missed in life.
When you have a life threading experience in life all you think about is the things you never got to do and when life is unsure, you wonder if you will every get that chance to do them. She feels that most of her time was spend alone raising a child, but she didn't see that you were there for her by providing a better life. She just wanted you there and she never cared about anything else.
Now is your chance to just be there and show her that your relationship deserves a second chance.
Her walls need to come down and get rid of that anger that she is feeling so that she can find that love she had for you. So much of her hurt is masking her true feelings for you. Deep down is her love for you that needs to surface again. Show her that you are going to be there for her through it all, so she can see that you will do anything to save this relationship.
This is getting more and more difficult, its is virtually as if I dont exist, I send her texts that go unanswered and emails that just hang. i dont know how to communicate with her. Nothing seems to work, I am frightened to have a one to one with her at the moment because all I expect to get is sell the house...I need some way of getting through that wall to her to tell her how much she has been through and that I have been there, but like you said she is so angry I cant get through to her, there is effectively no us. I really dont want to see this end but I cant see a future if she doesnt start to talk to me. or acknowledge that there is a problem and that there are lots of issues involved here. I really do despair I dont know what to do...I long for her back.
She seems so cold to me, if only there was a one liner that got her attention such that I could then follow it up. the comments that you have put in above would they be ok to put in an email to her. I am virtually frighten to say anything for fear of upsetting her, in the past I felt that she was waiting for me to fail and could then say told you so.. this is a really hard one.. everyone is saying that it is too far gone and all I get from her is too late damage done.. I'm not sure how many opportunities I will have left to talk to her before she leaves me,,
I am so sorry but all I am getting is that she needs her space to rebuild her life. And that i am the reason for her unhappiness
I am at the lowest possible point ever really don't know what to do
I am willing to try anything but I think the odds are against me. I know that she is not in
Involved with any one else, so I really do need to do something really amazing.
She does want space and feel that I can not support her in this as i would manipulate and wrong. Do my question is how do I support her
Hi as if it couldnt get any worse it did, I have to move back in to the home. as a result she is now moving out before I get home taking my son with her. I am absolutely devastated she does not want to be in the same home as me and is looking to go and insists that I put some distance between her and me,
I really dont know where to from here