Hi! Because you didn't reply in the chat, the system reverted to the question/answer format so I'll answer you here, okay?
I can imagine how frustrating this situation must be for you. My previous answer to you was based on being patient and waiting for when the two of you would be together again to have a serious discussion. Until then, the idea would be to be positive and "alluring" but not needy.
So we now have more information: you don't have the patience right now to wait till you two meet. You recognize in yourself that you are very sensitive and so you are reading into his enjoying himself and enjoying his life as a lack of needing you in his life and you are becoming less able to enjoy your own life. This is certainly not a good outcome.
Then, let's accept you as you are. You need to know if this is the relationship that will lead you to marriage and children or if you should move on. Okay. I accept this about you about you and you need to accept this about yourself as well.
And this is actually the key to my answer to you that you need to consider and think about. It's not a question of whether your father's approach is the best approach or not. It suits who you are as a person and therefore it may be the most appropriate approach.
You can't go on like this much longer not knowing. Then, asking him to make a decision as your father suggests gives you the opportunity to not wait. He will say what he says and you will decide if he is the right one or if you need to move on.
Your girlfriends' husbands' advice doesn't quite seem to match the circumstance: I recommend you ask him questions as your father suggests rather than tell him what he's doing. So, this is my advice for the discussion you have with him:
Stick to your father's agenda of getting clarity from him about his intentions. Resist telling him about himself as much as you can; rather, ask him what he wants and if there is anything here in this relationship in terms of the long term plans you and he had been looking for in the past. Your father's approach is the best, XXXXX XXXXX seem.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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