I agree that back then I was unfaithful and there must have been something that caused that to happen, personally though I think it was just down to being young and just starting out at university and wanting to live life, but the second I lost her I was distraught and did everything I could to keep it going with her however she just kept requesting that I left her alone. Rather than keep pushing this and borderline harassing her I left it although I would have done anything to keep her in my life.
I think the problem I have with the current relationship is that yes I do love her but do not feel that connection I had with the ex. The ex grabbed my heart and took it within such a short period and just looking at a picture of her brings all of them feelings rushing back.
The current relationship took time to fall for her and that could be down to being more cautious or it could be down to the fact I do not love her as much as the ex. Do you think a therapist knowing this additional advise would still be recommended?
Many thanks for all of your help with this.
Would confronting my ex (online) just to start talking and explore how she feels be the right thing to do whilst still in my current relationship or could that cause problems for my current relationship?