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i had been seeing a younger man and we broke up about a month

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i had been seeing a younger man and we broke up about a month ago can you tell me if we will get back together
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Counseling4You replied 2 years ago.

Counseling4You :

Hello, I just read your post, and would be happy to discuss with you.

Customer :

do you think we will get back together

Counseling4You :

Hi Suzie, I need some more info from you first in order to help you with this question. Tell me about your relationship and breakup with him.

Customer :

i had been seeing him for two and half years we got on really well together and then he decided he wanted to get someone his own age to have kids and settle down. which a dont think this will happen for him as he has not been in proper employment for years

Counseling4You :

Have you let him know that you are still interested in him?

Customer :

yes he nows iv told hjm il always be there for him

Counseling4You :

How recently did he make the decision to try to find someone his age?

Customer :

just as we broke up he started getting friendly with a girl he used to go out with years ago

Counseling4You :

I think that your situation is especially tricky, because if he knows that you are always available to him, you run the risk of taking you for granted, even if you would get back together.

Customer :

i did think that but just dont no what to do cause a think he has more feelings that he lets on,we used to text each other cause he said we will always be good friends and iv tried texting him and he ignores it

Counseling4You :

That's unfortunately a pretty strong sign that he does take you for granted to a degree. If you text him and he doesn't respond, he isn't worried about the consequences of his non-response.

Customer :

i try not texting him but i cant stop thinking about him a dont if he is trying to distance himself from me cause he used to come into shop where i work and now he doesnt

Counseling4You :

I hate to use an overused analogy, but it applies in many relationships. If you squeeze a bird in your hand tightly, all it tries to do is escape. But if you really care about the bird, you will open your hand and allow it to fly away, hoping that it will come back to you.

Counseling4You :

It looks like you went offline. Just respond in the chat once you are back on, and I'll look out for your response.

Counseling4You :

Hi, I noticed that a few days has gone by, and you haven't rated our discussion. Is there anything further I can assist you with?

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