Hi Ian, Please send it along but I will not be able to respond to you for another hour and a half. Is that okay?
ok thats no problem
where shall i send it>
you can try and paste it here..just make sure it doesnt get cut off and it all transfers...I have had issues before which is why I suggested the other forum the other night.
ok i will do that and make sure it all went through
I will be back to you around 6:30pm EST.
perfect. see you then.
bye for now. come back to the chat around that time okay?
I am here Ian. Give me one moment to read the letter
how do you feel about it?
hi i didn't realise you came back to chat!!
how do you feel about it? I thnk it is terrific
so how do i feel about it?
i don't know
do you desire to send it to her?
there is one part i'm not sure about - where i say that i have laid the foundations to build the rest of my life...
because i don't want to give the impression i am thinking that far in advance, because i am not and its not my intention with this letter
but still have doubts
she is on sprink break next week
doubts about what?
so if i send it then would be a good time for her to receive it
i dont know
just not sure whether to do it or not
its not something i would do
I do suggest you being clear about what you desire before you send her anything then
that is why I suggested to sit with it for a bit and glad you have but it ay say you still need to sit with it
and i worry that however she feels about me, she will see the letter as very extreme
if you had asked me earlier today i would have unquestionably said i was ready to send it
i just wanted to run it by you one more time
is my desire unclear in the letter?
guessing wont help and we have spoken since we first began speaking about being open bt your feelings otherwise you just go round and round in circles
the letter shows me you love her but you havent asked her to be with you or to come back to london or you would come to ny. so not sure what you desire
i feel like i am being as open in the letter about how i currently feel about her
i don't feel i have the right to openly express a desire for her to come back to london or me to move to NY etc
yes and that is clear that you love her
ok I get that
because that part is something i would prefer to figure out later
i think more than anything i want her to know how i feel and see if it reciprocates then take it from there
my biggest worry is no response
then that letter states that well
yes that is a possibility or her saying she loves you bt enjoys her life in nyc and that wont change
or she can say she loves you and wants to be with you
i would rather leave it open ended so that we could discuss later how to move forward, if she feels the same way
i know she finishes studying there in december
but i also know she wants to stay on and make a life out there
yes I remember
did i tell you about the marriage for visa joke?
yes you did
when i questioned it to her she said it was semi serious
and i really would not do that
I think if your desire is to share with her your love for her then the letter is perfect now you jst have to decide whether you want to send it.
really i am just scared
and I support that
i sent flowers that should arrive tomorrow
you are a gentleman
to say thank you to her and her roommate for letting me stay
maybe i think i want to gauge the reaction from the flowers too
i messaged her yesterday and received a response today also
so we are sort of back in touch
it was just to get the ball rolling again
good. so trust you gut and see how it feels when she gets the flowers
and trust yourself
i know it is getting tedious now, but what response do you think i will get from the letter?
I wish I had that crystal ball....
i just remembered that phrase from our first chat
for many things...life would feel simpler...but if you think about it if we had a crystal ball then none of us would get out of the bed in thr morning. :-)
but based on what you know that i have told you
that she loves you and is happy with her life in nyc and doesnt see that changing
both things are true for her
could you elaborate?
shes not ready to say she will come back to london when her studies are done
im not expecting that
im not expecting anything!
but i have considered moving to ny in the past
and maybe i actually would if i could make it viable
yes and that could be a possibility for both of you
me moving to ny?
i am starting to consider it again
i love london, but i feel i need a change of scenery at some point
i know because you love her and want to do what you can and I applaud that in you.
but it all comes down to money and if i can make my business work there
i dont want to come to a stand still if i move there
is your biz only related to the European markets?
its just that my company is still young and i think i would need the credibility and the finances to be able to take a calculated risk in moving somewhere else, whilst still making it work
i own a production company that i started in may
and we are just getting our first tv credit now
i am making my first tv show here
nice work. congratulations
however, my partner and i have written over 25 different tv show formats
that we hope to sell, whether or not we produce them
so, effectively i need to have at least licensed the rights to a good number of tv channels or other production companies to make them, and gain that credibility that my ideas work
if i maintain full ownership of the rights, then i can syndicate them internationally
that makes great sense
well I am interested in hearing how she responded to the flowers and to you letting me know when you have sent the letter
i real risk would be to go to NY in the position i am in now and try and almost start over again with new contacts etc and a lot of networking and hustling
I know it will be hard for you but it truly sounds like the next logical step here
IF i get the right response
but should i take out that line?
about laying down the foundations?
dont over think it...i think it is great how it is....no need to take that out
maybe its better you send it sooner rather than later now so you dont continue to ruminate over it all
i just dont want her to think i am subtly proposing marriage...
I didnt read it that way
or referrring to it at least
you are right
didnt hit me that way
i havent looked at it that much
after the first draft i looked at it again the day after and added a few things then thought to send it back to you once i saw you online again
maybe i will mail it monday
perfect plan. glad I got to see it again too
but i will see what the flowers response is first
i will handwrite it
ok and I am here if you want to share it with me...her response
hopefully she can read my handwriting...
to the flowers
i'll see what happens they should be there tomorrow morning, meaning i will find out sometime in the afternoon or evening...
at least i hope i hear back from her
I am sure you will
anyway i will leave you to it
have a nice evening and maybe i will speak to you again before the weekend is over.
thanks again i mean!
ok. I am around and look forward to a good response.
of course!!! always
bye for now and thank you for rating once again.