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Hi Ian, I am here and have about 20 minutes...tell me where things are?
she got the flowers
and thanked me,
but i dont know what to do
ok tell me what she said
i havent responded to her
she sent a text?
she said Shabbat Shalom and thanks for the pretty pretty flowers!
thats very nice
(shabbat shalom is a jewish thing)
that was yesterday
i dunno i guess i was expecting more of a response
and i was messaging her online the other night and i felt like i was the only one keeping the conversation going
I think her response was lovely but tell me what you desired?
it felt like she didnt want to talk to me
so i just left it
friday night it was
as best you can try not to read into each thing and assign meaning
i know i just cant help it
I know I truly know...I feel for you but it i hurting you when you do that
i feel like i should message her and tell her i am glad she liked them and that they were really just for her then maybe ask how she is?
I might write back I am so glad you liked them...it was great to be there.
is that it?
I think when you read stuff into things then you push for an answer and that doesnt help you
so if you desire to know more then send her your beautiful letter
its just how i am feeling at the moment
and i am still scared about the letter
what could she have said that would make you feel okay? because shabbat shalom and ty for the pretty pretty flowers is really a nice text
haha i dont know
I know you are looking for that sign...if the text said this...whatever the this is then it means that
of course i am
but too hard to do that. If you are unsure about sending the letter right now then sit with it more until it feels clear for you!
she just usually seems a lot more enthusiastic to talk to me
i think thats why
and you know my feelings about that....we dont live with signs..we live with open communication...even if we dont know the outcome
i usually dont have to initiate contact as much
thats what is worrying me
i feel like i am being obnoxious when all i am trying to do is communicate
yes but again if you wer worried then you could be reading into all of this
I dont hear that at all
thats the only reason i am holding back too
is that i feel like she doesnt really want to talk to me at the moment
we have no way of knowing how she will respond but you are sending it for you whenever you decide to send it
so only you will know when it is the right time or not based on how you feel and not reading into texts
its not individual texts, its just a mood i am getting from them
then pull back and see if she reaches out...would that feel okay for you?
i will just message her back and then see what happens
focus on your work as you do and let things sit for a bit and see how and if she reaches out
ok, but still message her back?
Do you want to respond to it? you have to go with your gut. If it were me, I would send a message like the one I wrote above
i kind of do, just so that she knows i care that it made her happy if that makes sense
(that's if it did make her happy)
yes makes perfect sense
and then i will play it cool and see what happens from there
that works...again it is about what works for you!!!! I am good with that and I will always work toward helping you to figure that out.
well i will let you go then i guess
I desire for you to feel okay. so send that text and breathe!
ok thank you
speak soon (hopefully not too soon!)
lol. Im here.
keep being the gentleman you are.
i will thank you