Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counsellor for Answers ASAP
Where you stand is first a legal question. In USA a husband or wife doesn't need their spouse's agreement to get a divorce. So the only way to force him into couple counseling would be to ask an attorney to make the legal division of property so costly to him that he might prefer to face the issues he's been avoiding, instead of just taking the easy way out. So you need UK legal advice first, before marriage counseling can do you any good.