Hi and welcome. I'm a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
I think this behavior of his is indicative of what life together could be like...you finding out things and he denying them. I think in order for any relationship to work all must come clean and talk openly and honestly about what has transpired.
I can understand how you are having a hard time trusting him...these things that he has been involved in do not inspire trust and not does his denial of them
I would sit with him again and let him know that you can work through anything as long as he is open and honest but without that there isnt much of a mutual and trusting relationship
you have been together for a while so open communication should exist and you are right in the pursuit of that
hooker bars for work? does he think you were born yesterday?
a gentleman does not partake in those outings even if it is for work
trying to get a client in a hooker bar?
I think you should trust your gut here...its not just about the bar it is his style of denial about big things that affect your relationship
I do see it and believe that this style is not healthy and needs to change to have a healthy relationship
only if he comes clean about all things and is willing to be open...if not I see this pattern remaining
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