Thank you for your question.
You both love each other and you both need to focus on this relationship together. There is a lot of what I call outside distractions right now.
You lost your friend because he marriage fell apart. But he doesn't want to be with her and nothing can fix that. He is in love with you.
If you decided to end the relationship tomorrow it will not change his feelings for you and he still will not go back too her.
What has happened is something that can not be taken back so you both must move forward together and create a life together.
Your son finding out that way would have been very hard for him. That is understandable.
It is very normal for children to want their parents back together.
Child never want to see their parents separate. But you also can't be a relationship that you no longer want to be in.
In time children begin to accept that their parents have moved on.
At first they always have that hope that their parents will get back together and that is why they do not like when their parents begin to date because they figure that will interfere with their parents reuniting again.
Child do adjust to divorce but it takes time to heal and understand why their parents separated.
You have moved on and I feel in time your children will understand you are with someone else now, but it will take time for them to adjust.
You both love each other and I know that you are having trouble with guilt, but you both are together now.
You want to enjoy the relationship. This is a new relationship and you both should be getting to know each other and starting a life together.
You want to create those amazing memories of a new relationship without all that guilt that you are carrying around.
You need to know that their is nothing you can change what has happened. People fall in love and you have to look at maybe this is the person that you belong with.
You already suffer from depression and I want you to know that this is your time to be happy.
You need to both think of each other and your children in being a family.
I know that in time your children will accept that you have moved on. You want to plan family things together to get them use to the idea that this is the person you love and he is going to be in our lives.
His family is just having trouble understanding everything that has happened. this does not mean they will not change their mind and accept you. His parents need to look at that their son is happy with you and is in love.
They will in time understand this was the right choice for their son because he is in love. Parents always want what is best for their child.
I feel that they will let you into their lives once they see how much their son cares about you.
I want you to let all that guilt go and begin this new relationship. You both love each other.
You both should be together.
thank you debra
You welcome do you have anymore question I can help you with today?
no thank you I will try to apply what you have said thanks again
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