Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I'm very sorry to know about this very sad and frustrating situation.
Could you please tell me if you were able to keep in touch, communicate/share with his family members through social media before he ended every communication?
I see, then during these 6 months of long distance relationship you did never have any contact with any of his family members or close friends, it was all exclusively between you, through chat and phone, right? Do you have FB profiles connected showing your dating status?
I see, then even when you were in a relationship for all these months he never make it public nor even to his own family about you and your relationship?
What you describe here about his sudden end of every communication with you is truly shocking, and it could explain how previous behaviors like not meeting you as agreed after such an intense relationship, and keeping you aside from his public life, were in fact big red flags.
I am very sorry then everything seems to show that this person was not being honest towards you, but misleading you into this relationship that he could secret. His behaviors do not show he was being serious, respectful nor honest towards you, and unhappily there are not few people doing this nowadays that technology allows sharing in so different ways. It is overwhelmingly painful to be in a situation like this.
I see. Have you notices his online activity in his FB or other online social media-networking accounts since he ended every communication with you?
I understand and believe everything you are saying about him, and this is why this is so shocking, since the image he has resented and publicly has does not match with his behavior. For me the potential big red flags here were keeping everything between you secret, not providing any concrete form of communication but limited it exclusively to chat and phone calls you initiated, then cancelling your first meeting after such an intense relationship, and then literally disappearing once you were supposed to go there.
You could for sure, since it is your right once you had a relationship, but I am afraid he did show several behaviors that were showing potential lack of honesty, immaturity and manipulation, and e is not a teenager, so it is very concerning and painful for sure.
You have contacted his family member via FB and none of them have replied, and that's odd too.
It is just unacceptable what he has done, I;d say very abusive and traumatic, and I have to say that this does happen, that people who portray a very nice social-public image could have very serious personality problems and could use and abuse vulnerable people. But you would never know the truth since he has just not been honest.
I am sorry then as the phone calls initiated by you and everything else, it seems you were offering your best, XXXXX XXXXX caring and consistent, while he was doing the opposite, being very manipulative and taking advantage of you, which is just unacceptable, but again, these happens and is not uncommon, and people with serous personality disorders do this without caring.
And you know for sure your messages have been receives through FB by his family members, right. Then I think you have the right to contact his workplace and ask to know if he is fine, and request to talk to him. You said his coworkers are the only ones that know about you, so I imagine you shared with some of them and that's why you know he told them, right/ So you could call and request to talk to him and to know if he is fine, letting them know that it is you, his girlfriend.
If they confirm that he is still working but unavailable, then you would know for sure he has willingly decided to end every communication with you. It seems that once you got to the point of meeting each ther he used excuses and now just could not keep it for longer and that's why he chose to end communication.
I see, then you were truly kept apart from his real life. I am sorry to confirm that everything you are depicting here shows that. This is not about a teenager, and while you have been offering everything a committed and caring person could give in this relationship, everything he has done seems to be so poor and suspicious, then ending it the way he did is without doubt very wounding and abusive. Then I think it is a good idea to call his workplace and ask if he is here today or tomorrow, and request to talk to him, from their response you would know. If he did keep his own home address secret from you, that is just very bad, never a good sign; an din his case he consistently showed this suspicious and in my opinion unacceptable behavior.
I think you need to start not trusting and believing everything this person told you, otherwise you could keep convincing yourself that what has happened is just an accident, an incident, where he is a just a victim from unknown circumstances, hat would keep you fueling further attachment, hope and that could only lead to further pain and suffering, while what you may need is to focus on start your healing process and rebuilding your life in ways you do not allow, nor enable anybody to use, abuse, neglect or manipulate you. But only you know what you really can and are willing to affford.
It is truly cruel an absolutely abusive, and that's why I believe the sooner you come to terms with reality and start focusing on you healing, taking good care of yourself, the less pain you would experience and the less extra suffering you would have to afford.
Does it makes sense?
I mean that as long as you keep fueling hope about him, denying what has happened, thinking he was truly honest towards you in the relationship, then you could continue feeling the way you feel now, for even longer, and that would mean you would have to afford this pain to get deeper until you choose to accept that his behaviors during your relationship and n the present show something very different that what you have believed.
It is very shocking but this is happening,and only you have the power to choose if you want to keep fueling further hope, affection, passion and trust towards him, making your life, well-being and happiness depend on it, or choose to focus on your healing process, taking better care of yourself without further delay.
You're very welcome. Please get all the help you can from your support system, form caring family and close friend, since this is a tough process and you need and deserve their support to heal and get stronger and wiser from it. Also consider counseling as the possible best source of support to work on it, since you do not want to afford getting depressed or develop an anxiety disorder or further wounding and trust issues affecting your future relationships because of this traumatic and abusive experience.
Please feel free to contact me if you have any further questions and to follow up, since I am here willing to support you as possible.
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Thank you for your trust. Please take gentle care and consistent action, it is and will not be easy but it is necessary and absolutely worthy.