Hello-It sounds like you are not only going through some tough medical issues, but also an abusive relationship. There are some options for you to be able to get out of the house or him out of the house. It looks like you are from the united kingdom. Is that right? Do you have any medical workers that would be able to help assist you in this abusive relationship? If not, there is services with the disability offices that can offer assistance. You are right in being careful that he doesn't catch you so are you able to make any phone calls when he is not around or talk with someone you trust to get some of the information?
Another option is to call the police and look into filing a restraining order. This would give you the space you need to start making plans to either file for divorce or at least figure out the legal details regarding the house.
Hello wasn't looking to get out of the house I'm the one that has done everything in the house like decorating keeping the house running until I got too ill also everything in the house I have bought he has never shown any Interest in the house I even did the garden when I could. It would be so much easier if he left but just getting a restraining order wouldn't bother him. We are both from the United Kingdom. As for any medical assistance no I don't have any when you have a husband they think you don't need help that they would look after you. As for making phone calls I daren't as he often leaves an hidden tape recorder in the house when he goes out. As to someone I trust he makes sure I don't have any friends as he tells lies to both parties to split us up. There is only my mum but she only comes once a fortnight.
As for getting a restraining order as I have stated that wouldn't bother him also want to know where I stand with the house before I dare do anything.
The house issue is not a black and white issue. With a marriage you both would have rights to the house. If he is not willing to leave the house I am assuming he would fight for the house if you were to separate or divorce. To my understanding, you both have equal right to the house regardless of who has put more into it. Does that make sense? So with the house, it would go into a legal issue.
On the restraining order, I know it doesn't completely stop everything but it does provide you some protection which it sounds like you need. He is someone that is abusing you in a lot of ways, especially putting your medical issues and health at great risk. A restraining order would give you some of the power back. He may not abide by it, but when he doesn't you would be able to call police and then he would face some consequences for not following the order. I know restraining orders are not pleasant, but at the least you need to do something to protect yourself. Safety is the most important thing!
Sorry I had to rush off this morning I heard him getting up. You said about the house that would have to go down the legal root is it still the case for a council house that is rented. I you get chance to reply to this query it is alright to email me as luckily he doesn't know how to work a computer.
Usually with a marriage anything that you both own would go to that legal route if you would not be able to agree on who could take it. Even if it is a rental agreement. Laws are different in every area so I cannot say for sure, but that is the most common. Does that make sense?