Thank you for your question.
I have no doubts that he cares and loves you, but he is struggling right now in dealing with what he has discovered and that is COPD.
It is important fro him to stay healthy to get through what he is going through. A few things that do aggravate COPD is house cleaners. When cleaning he needs to make sure he is using natural ways to clean the house. Cleaning sprays, candles, potpourri, air fresheners tend to aggravate COPD. He needs clean air in his home.
I feel what he is going through right now he feels like if you stay he is burdening you. Which he needs to know is not true.
You want to be there for him through the good and that bad. You need to tell him that any problems you will get through together. That you are there for him no matter what.
He needs someone right now but he is afraid.
He needs to open up and let you in how life. He should not be dealing with any of this on his own.
As much as he pushes you away, you need to stay right by his side.
He is going through up and down emotions.
He needs someone just to talk with about how he feels.
It sounds like he is trying to let you in but doesn't want to burden you.
It is important that you tell him how you feel and that you want him in your life.
People when having problems push the person they love the most away.
But don't let him because he needs you.
Thank you for your advice, and from past record with him, this has been the case, but this time he is different. It is like he hates me which has come from nowhere. His nastiness has been extremely nasty.
All this week he has txt me saying,' don't ever contact me again, ever',
the following day he has txted me saying 'hi' or 'how are you' then asks me to call round at his that evening, five mins later he txts saying, ' forget it, call tomorrow' last night I just turned up, his car was there but he said he was still in work. again he told me to say 'call tomorrow',
I need to know wot the hell is going on, I feel like im going insane.
Hia, im sorry for going on but he has told me he has barred me from everywhere, so I cant even txt him, I thought id write him a letter but he would know it was from me and put it in the bin
I am going insane
thank you but he has blocked me on fb and mobile so I cant get hold of hi,.
this is driving me nuts