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Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about this truly overwhelming situation.
The reality you have described here is very sad, and frustrating since it clearly shows that while you have been honest, caring, understanding and supportive, setting this person's well-being and happiness as a priority in your life, he has done the opposite, causing real pain and suffering for a long period of time.
Thus this is not about an isolated incident or a misunderstanding, but about serious pattern of neglectful, abusive and manipulative behaviors, which are totally incompatible with any form of real and healthy love.
He never truly showed you consistent real and caring affection, but broke your heart, not because of you doing anything wrong, but because of his own issues and deficiencies, around immaturity, selfishness, lack of respect and even compassion.
When a relationship is not really reciprocal, when there is not real honesty, openness and respect, no matter how hard you try an do your best, it would never develop and growth as a healthy and truly fulfilling experience, but the other person would use, abuse, neglect and manipulate you in obvious or subtle ways.
What you have found about, allows you to finally come to terms with reality that this person does not deserve your affection, trust nor respect, and that exposing to him would only cause further pain and enable further abuse and manipulation. Now you need to focus on your healing process and be very proactive. You need that mix ready as agreed before, then please wait for him to complete it, and once you have it, you'd end every communication after telling him to send back your presents, since it is obvious he does not deserve any of them.
Now the most important priority is for you not to waste your time nor to get even more hurt by this person, but to heal and grow stronger and wiser from this overwhelming experience, so you would never allow anybody like him again into your life, but only those capable and willing to respect, love, understand, support and take good care of you, in real reciprocal and fulfilling ways.
Does it make sense?
You’re very welcome. I fully support you and feel hopeful about your healing and growth process from this tough experiences.
Please feel free to contact me if you have any further questions and to follow up, since I am here willing to support you as possible.
You can contact me using this direct link to my profile http://www.justanswer.com/relationship/expert-rafael-morales-toia/, you could bookmark it for easy access, and just make sure you state "For Rafael only" in your request, for other experts to know you want me to reply, and I will respond in less than an hour most of the time.
Thank you for your trust. Take gentle care and consistent action.