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Can a relationship with my ex be restored. Broke up 3 months

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Can a relationship with my ex be restored. Broke up 3 months ago and he is now going to marry an ex girlfriend. It's been a long distance relationship. Six years in the same place and 7 away but seeing each other every year for a month. Does he love his ex who he met over Christmas and she said she'd broken up with her ex and then they sat down and decided to get married (that's what he told me).
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Dear Debra replied 2 years ago.

Dear Debra :

Thank you for your question. That was a very fast decision for him to decide to get married.

Dear Debra :

I would stay in contact with him still because you just never know he might change his mind and realize he can not let you go.

Dear Debra :

You wan to tell him how you feel about him because that is very important for him to know that you do not want this to end.

Dear Debra :

You could say that you are happy for him, but you want to be the one to be with him.

Dear Debra :

You both have been together a long time and I feel like he needs to know that you both could work things out.

Dear Debra :

You have broken up 3 months ago but that does not mean you can not rekindle this relationship again.

Dear Debra :

It sounds like the relationship he is in is being rushed and he need to really think about what he wants.

Dear Debra :

I want you to ask him how he feels about you.

Dear Debra :

You need to show him that this relationship is not over and that you want to be in his life.

Dear Debra :

Ask him what he wants and needs out of your relationship.

Dear Debra :

Let him express how he feels about you and him, maybe he wants to get married too you.

Dear Debra :

I think you both need to really sit down and talk about your relationship because I think all the things he is doing is because he is looking for more in your relationship.

Dear Debra :

That was too fast to meet someone and decide to get married. It is like he is looking for more of a commitment in life. I am sure he wanted to spend hid life with you before anyone, but he seems to be rushing into something I feel he might not want.

Dear Debra :

You need to tell him where you see yours and his relationship going. Express your feelings let him know where the future is going to bring you and him.

Dear Debra :

Thank you again for your question.

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