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I have now ended my relationship with my abusive boyfriend,

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I have now ended my relationship with my abusive boyfriend, and he is now leaving my flat for good. I was seeing another guy, but now I don't want a relationship with him anymore, as I don't see us as compatible. But I have started dating a new guy, who is totally different to both my exes. He works very hard, and I am looking for someone who is supportive. Is this too soon to start a new relationship?
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Dr. Mark replied 3 years ago.

Hi! I'll be glad to help you with this issue.

I can imagine how confusing this situation must be for you. You were involved with a man who was abusive. You had the strength within to leave that relationship. That is a very important point here and I want you to recognize it as such:

You had the strength within yourself to leave. That tells me a lot.

You then met someone else and you made the decision that you two are incompatible. This is also encouraging. Why?

Because you are not saying that this man is also abusive. That means that you have not repeated a pattern. And you have made judgments about the relationships yourself. This is encouraging as well.

Therefore, I would recommend that you allow yourself to follow the confident part of who you are that is looking for a new relationship. I think that is encouraging. You are learning to form judgments and to not fall into patterns that are unhealthy in relationships. This is promising. So, again, allow yourself to follow your confident self.

Okay, I wish you the very best!



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Expert:  Dr. Mark replied 3 years ago.
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