I feel so confused now having read all the options. I think the issue is to do with his fear of committment also as he's emotionally mature and withdraws easily now we talking about emotional issue. And doesn't contact me as much as he used, but responds to my calls and messages. I am 38 and I'm not sure if I will find someone in time to be able to have the family that I want. I have been trying internet dating for a while and it is very tiring. At the moment I feel every option there is no guarantee. I'm feeling so despondent at the moment. But I do love this guy and believe he will be good partner and father if he sorts himself out. What do I do?
What do you mean issues that we need to sort out? We were only together 7 months and things progressed quite quickly. I am having counselling myself at the moment. He's withdrawing more now that we've broken up, and we were both crying/upset when we broke up. I do want to wait for him a bit, but it is difficult situation. How much time do I invest in this waiting period, as I don't want to get hurt again, as like you say there are no guarantees. I mean how often do I make contact etc. Maybe I'm thinking about it too much. I would really like to meet someone that I can share my life with. Its so hard. He said the same thing that its hard to manage this situation. I would love to be speaking to him everyday, like we used to but I know things have changed. He is generally a closed person in terms of expressing his feelings, and he said that I make him feel as I'm more open about my feelings. I do write things down, but the situation is tricky as I'm in love with him.