Okay well Ive been married for two years but my relationship with my partner hasnt been going very well. I have never felt comfortable having much physical contact with him and always felt too scared to have sex with him because I've found him too controlling sexually. Whenever He would expect sex from me id feel terrorfied and become extremely relieved when he would then change his mind. I have felt very sad recently because I feel I lack intimacy in my life. I would enjoy doing things with him but after 6 months after meeting he admitted he lied to me saying he was allowed in this country when he wasnt and it was either I marry him or he goes back home to india. I chose to marry him. I have arranged for us to receive couple counselling to try to resolve the intimacy issue but unsure if it will work for sure still. Whenever me and my husband would go about sex whatever I do would never seem to be good enough. If i dont do what he wants he gets disapointed. I never seem to please him
hey thankyou, this is really helpful so far I will definetly pay you. for some reason it didnt paste all of what I put here is more :
I never seem to please him internally and cant be in the moment. also one thing i found damaging is he told me I could not get pregnant If we had sex without condoms and claimed himself to be an expert. I found that lie painful and affected my trust a lot too. all in all I never feel safe having much physical contact and feel threatened inside. I dont understand why I feel like this.
Recently there has been a guy where ive been working temporarily recently who has showed some interest in me and i prob wont have the chance to see him again and considering asking someone to give him my number and meet up as friends to keep options open and know him better? Would it be wrong and disrespectful to do this even though im married ? I just want to behave in a respectful manner for both people.