Thank you for coming back to me.
You are right i have been studying part time at University on some advanced degrees such as the Masters and growing my career. However to have not dated a girl for several years is worrying, however i am pleased at my progression in my career.
I get alot of people staring at me when i am in public places, they do generally smile and say hello. I am not a bad looking person, i guess i just look like your average 23 year old guy, fairly slim and quite tall. However just been out in the public makes me anxious, when other people stare at me for several seconds.
I think the fear of approaching a girl i like is enough to make me anxious. I have the fear of rejection and embarrassment, i think if a women is that attractive i worry the conversation make be awkward and not flow as i had liked. Although when speaking with my male friends i can have very fluent conversions no problem. I think the issue is when the hormones are going, my throat goes dry and i suddenly start getting nervous and i worry that i cannot approach an attractive girl anymore.
For online dating i feel it is embarrassing as if i do manage to meet a girl they may wonder why i could not meet a girl in real life. Meeting someone online is not manly and i feel this is embarrassing and the girl may think so as well.
I would prefer a long term girlfriend, not a relationship that is not going to work for instance a girl from a bar and other stereotypical pick up locations. I am a business person and would prefer to meet a girl at maybe a business event something which i would have in common and be happy to talk about. I do not really have that many hobbies, what kind of other social events could you suggest that may be beneficial?
Do you not feel bars and other pickup locations are just as good as social events. Why do you feel going to a social event would be better for a long term relationship?