they live too far away for it to be a regular thing as in meeting up (plus she has her partner to consider). But I do believe that they do meet up on occasion for a coffee and a catch up. in my heart I dont believe they are having a sexual relationship but I have no guarantee. She swears they are just old friends, and so does he.
When I shout at him he says he doesnt know why I do it as they are just friends and nothing more. Someone to chat too. he basically shouts back. When I have confronted her, she tells me the same and adds her own stupid little insulting comments.
She has suggested the four of us meeting up and going out (I dont think a night out with alcohol would be a good idea and I dont believe a social day out would be suitable either). my husband mentioned the four of us meeting up and I have agreed but I doubt that would happen. I know he has asked her to stop contacting my husband but I dont believe that he knows how often it happens. This is what I want to clear up. I think they are both scared of this. What would stop me turning up at their house and asking him but I dont want to make things worse even if this is what I feel I need to do.
They both just say they are friends.... my husband is very loving with me, always has been. We have lots of plans for the future..holidays, renewing our vows in goa in November blah blah blah. And I do truly believe that it is a friendship BUT I dont understand why they cant see the upset it is causing and allow it to continue. This is why I now need help and advice. She is getting away with it basically and I know her partner wouldnt be happy if I told him exactly how often they are in contact. The times I have caught him on the phone. I have spoken to her and she has says 'Im his work's security'..lies! she even created a male facebook account so they could be in contact but I found them out. They are both just being so disrespectful to both me and her partner. Hope I have answered your questions and you see why I am so frustrated with it all!!