Thanks. it made me worry less, however I recently found out that he has been having a very frequent, overly friendly chat on whatsapp with a married woman. Messages involve 'miss you' xxx and hearts from both sides. He never sends back xxx hearts or anything to his other guy or girl friends. He is not that type.
He always keeps his phone on silence and carries it everywhere with him.. and takes ages in toilet (now I know why)
I did not know any of this until last week when I decided to see who he's been chatting to. So I asked him to show me his messages... he hesitated but gave me his PIN and I came across to messages from his friends and few girls. As I started reading one chat he got very nervous and took the phone away from me.
He said I have nothing to worry about as she is a married woman, his ex-colleague and showed me a picture of her in a wedding dress.
Now I've started to pay more attention to all this phone situation and noticed that he checks his phone all the time, it's mostly football scores that I find him checking on his phone but it makes me wonder if that is the only reason.
He always stays up late and goes to bed after me. This morning I secretly checked his phone again whilst he was in a shower. All the old messages were deleted and he had a new message from this married woman received early in the morning. Also checked his facebook and she has liked most of his pictures. I know I am making the situation worse by checking him and stalking his facebook but I just feel sick now as they have been chatting to each other like that for over a year now. Dont know how frequent it was before but it seems a bit too frequent now.
He is still loving and caring.. and I feel like i am starting to turn into a jealous monster because of all this.
Have to say I am no angel, I used to have chats like that with few guys over a year ago when we were having a crisis in our relationship. I had no intention to cheat on him, just wanted to ease my pain. Now I don't even want to chat with other guys as everything seems great... I'm probably worried because I have done the same thing the only difference is that we were having a crisis back then... and my messages did not involve hearts and 'miss you'.
I am very bad at dealing with situations like this... What should I do? I cannot be as nice and sweet to him anymore and he knows that something is not right.