This wasn't a serious issue and what your saying is correct. I did previously write everything down, so that has made me feel like i have more control. It has definitely helped me to deal with situations and it does feel like my parents attitude has changed, but there is still that underlying need to for them to try and control, however small it may be. As you have said, i can't influence that, the only thing i can influence is how i deal with it. I am at the stage that if i deal with it badly then it is my fault.