I am an attractive 62 year old English lady, and my partner of nearly three years is a 42 year old Muslim man. He works as a bus driver and during his training he was asked by his 'mentor', another 60 year old driver who trains new recruits to the job, to give a mother and a young daughter of thirteen years of age, free rides on the buses. The mother, I believe, was once in a relationship with the old 'mentor', but he has since married. The bus company are being defrauded of their revenues. The two people concerned use the buses all the time, and this theft has been going on for years. However, I think one ought to certainly stand one's ground, and refuse to enter into such deceit, since if the management found out what was happening, the driver would be dismissed. My partner felt he had to go along with the request to give free rides. The young girl in question developed a 'crush' on my partner. The girl and her mother sent him constant texts, so they could travel on whatever bus he was driving, for free. My partner had been warned, two years ago, by the 'mentor', about why he was texting such a young child. It naturally raises concerns, and it seems as though he was 'grooming' a vulnerable child, obese and of somewhat limited intelligence, with no father. I was extremely upset and shocked,when I discovered last summer what had been transpiring between my partner and the young girl. They had been exchanging many texts and calls, and free bus rides were taken frequently. My partner said he would put an end to all this and stop the mother and her daughter contacting him, and I thought all was settled.
Two weeks ago however I discovered that my partner has the young girl's phone number in his mobile, and clearly the free rides and calls and texts were continuing. He deletes the texts as soon as they were sent and received, so they could not be seen.
Two days ago he left the house ostensibly to pay a quick visit to a friend, but during this time I believe he called the girl and told her why he had been off work for a week, and why she had not seen him on the buses. Later that night she sent him a text saying ' Night, night, baby,xxxx love you xxx'.
Naturally I became extremely upset. I had not had any peace of mind since I realised he still had her mobile number in his phone. I had been trying to 'bottle things up' for a peaceful life, since he does spend a lot of time with me. But reading that sort of thing was deeply painful. I told him of my concerns since the girl is so young, and this has been going on for years. She is now fifteen. My partner told me that he had, amazingly, told the girl and her mother that he had finished with me last year,(when I expressed initial shock and I was upset over the situation, and called the mother to express concern), and he wanted to placate them
.As we spoke, he then became argumentative and violent, and could not control himself. He struck me many times, and began throwing anything he could lay his hands on, at me. He clearly did not like being discovered in his deceit. He then went into my garage, ( he lives with me in my property), selected a hammer, and I thought he was going to strike me with it. Instead he smashed his expensive mobile phone up. Then he left my house and went home to his mother's house, a mile away. The first time he smashed his phone was when I discovered child pornography on his computer, and he once again became violently angry to have been discovered.
He has a police record for grievous bodily harm towards his former wife, whom he had been forced to marry in a Asian 'arranged' wedding.He also has theft on his police record.We had been getting along well up until I made these discoveries about the continuing contact and texts from the girl, but I do not feel that I can continue the relationship whilst he continues to contact this girl, and continues to work as a bus driver, operating more or less as a free taxi service for this girl. He does not like the boring job, and says he would like to have more time to spend saying his 'prayers', since Muslims are supposed to pray a lot. He is a hypocrite.
Since the girl is so young, it seems as though he has been 'grooming' her, and together with the earlier discovery of child pornography, it makes one naturally deeply concerned.
As a character, he seems at times, rather immature. He enjoys spending hours playing mindless violent games on his PS4 game machine etc... and watching childish comic-hero 'Marvel' style films.His inability to control himself and violent outbreaks, is extremely worrying, and implies guilt.Should I take action against what is happening here, should someone be informed about the 'grooming'? Especially in the light of my partner's police record, and his illegal viewing of child pornography, last year. Should the bus company be informed of the theft and free rides etc.?