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My girlfriend of only 3 months recently broke it off with me

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My girlfriend of only 3 months recently broke it off with me saying she really likes me buy sees me as more of a friend I know that's not the truth coz for a while she couldn't keep her hands off me always wanting to kiss me.I am 35 she is 33 and I did something with her that I have never done with anyone else I acted needy clingy and probably bored her because of all that.she told me she would eventually need a kidney transplant a while ago and ever since I tried to constantly reassure her I like her and i wasn't going anywhere and looking back that's when my needy full on behavior started and I think that has led her to look for someone else ,is there anyway anything I can do to try to get her back
Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
Thanks for writing in. I am sorry to hear of your breakup and your sadness. You sound like a lovely guy and your neediness as you say has come because of how you care for her. While we don't know exactly why she ended things or if that was the reason, she may just need some time to be apart so that she can miss you and figure out that she desires to be with you and that she does feel more than friendship. She may also be protective of herself if she is dealing with a major health issue and may not want to have you get close if she is worried. I would give her some time and space and if you feel like you desire to reach out, then simply let her know you respect her wishes but care for her deeply and would hope to be able to reconnect. In the meantime, try and care for yourself and let yourself feel what you feel about it all.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Just 1 final question,she is going on holidays in 3 days with her friends,I was thinking of sending her a text the day before she goes so she will have a bit of time and tell her that I know I have been acting needy etc is that a good idea ?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
3 weeks not 3 days
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
Let's wait on that have a few weeks so let's see if she reaches out before then. I think if you jump right in now with all of that it may come off as more needy.
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
I think giving her some time and space could be helpful.
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
if she feels like she has some room that may allow her to miss you a bit..make sense?
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Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Ya that makes a lot of sense thank you for your advise
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
My pleasure. Take care of yourself now too. Be well.

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