You can't go forward because she kept it from you or because of the financial burden it is placing on you?
Thanks for telling me more...I think all things are true...she is sorry and full of shame and this could be the way for her and for you if you remain with her. I hear how much you love her and are torn about leaving....I don't think I hear that you are ready to do that. She may need to get some professional help to address these issues of spending and subsequent debt and then lying about it. The pattern for her continues and I think she could be helped if she sought out some support for it.
I hear that you are wiped from it all...would taking a break from the relationship again help you to sort things out to see what you truly feel and want? I know you have done it before and have reconnected but it may be helpful again so you can have some time to access your feelings and be away from it all and see if you feel freer or you feel like no matter what, you still want to be with her. I think paying attention to your needs now is crucial. Nobody can tell you whether to leave or stay...only you know or will know what is right for you.
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