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Thank you for providing me such great information. I a sorry for this roller coaster he has put you on. You have done nothing wrong here and he needs to put the blame and fault on you in order to keep up his addictive behavior. Like most people that have an addiction it is very difficult to see that their behavior is wrong or odd or problematic. And we look at addiction in terms of how it affects ones functioning and in this case we see that i has by the inability to sustain a healthy and mutual relationship with you. Please do not bear the responsibility here...he has some issues and unless he sees it as problematic and goes for help then the behaviors will continue. Move forward with your head held high!
It is not about being right...you had intense feelings about his behavior and that is what came from your mouth. Don't beat yourself up over that aspect. You can move on and heal from this. you have done nothing wrong.
Clearly he is struggling with this and you did a lot by trying to love him through it and hoping things could be different but sadly without him feeling there is a problem and getting help, the behaviors will continue.
And that sounds like it is the right course for you. You did a lot and sacrificed a lot and he is not willing to see there is an issue and believes it is your issue. Not the case. I am here for you again if you need. If all good for now, please take a moment to click on the rating tab to rate my support. Thanks in advance.
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