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I am sorry to hear of this for you. Sounds like you are very loving and flexible with him and always willing to listen and help him. I hear that he treats you well in many respects but his other behavior is disrespectful and quite hurtful. It comes down to whether he can get some help for himself to see how he is continuing this pattern of abuse and how long you will tolerate this in your relationship with him. Let him know how much you love him and want to be with him, but not in this way. Trust needs to be reestablished so you can move forward together.
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I hear all of this pain for you. You are both suffering and it sounds to me like unless he gets the help he needs, this relationship will continue to be the same for you. I hear the love and care and all you have done for a long time and I would agree it sounds like you have neglected your needs and at what cost? Sadness and perhaps anxiety. You are young and deserve an easier time...see if he can get the help and stick with it. And if you feel like you can't be in it anymore, that is okay too...you are allowed to care for yourself.
I love to hear that and you are so loving and giving...even while you are suffering you are doing the work that you are. I hope it gives you clarity and the desire to care for yourself more. I am here anytime you need me.
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