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Developing a relationship with an escort?

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developing a relationship with an escort?
Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Relationship
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
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Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Hi i visited an escort a couple of days back and she was completely besotted by me. She went as far as being reluctant to accept the money i offered. As i stayed at her place she even cooked for me and said that she doesn't normally do this for anyone. She saved my number and even said we can become 'friends with benefits'. I am attracted to her but don't want to force anything as her line of work is probably a major concern. Ideally i would like to take it further and see where it goes but it seems that she is new to escorting and might want to carry on. On a positive note she did say i can call and visit her any time as she had something that she wanted to reveal to me.
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.

These types of deeper feelings can develop but they don't usually make for a long-term relationship and connection. She is new to the escort business as you say and she has yet to develop her way to move through the space of working with clients and not becoming connected in the way you believe she has. It is also quite possible that while she may have feelings for you and even other clients, that she cultivates those feelings on both sides as that is part of the business to maintain a client. Whether she has cooked for others or given her number out to others is not knowable, but I would caution against feeling like there is more than what is at the surface.

Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.

I await your thoughts.

Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.

Let me know if I can support you further. If all good for now, please take a moment to click the rating tab to rate my support. Thanks in advance.

Jen

Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.

I am not able to provide a live phone call but am happy to continue here.

Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Hi can we talk using this chat
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
as we have been doing thus far
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
If you both feel strongly for one another you can always put your feelings out there and see if things have a chance. Let me know how else I can support you.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
i would say its a one off though so am a bit hesitant to follow it up only if its worth doing so.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
What would be the tell tale signs that someone of that sort is interested in taking things further?
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
It's a chance for sure but what guarantees to we have with anything in life? You could put it out and if she says no then move on.
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
This feels about business to me...yes she has said wonderful things but no way to truly know unless you take the risk.
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
I hear your trepidation but tell me what is there to lose for you by putting your feelings out there?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Yep i have tried to get in touch today by text and phonecall and there has been no response. So i have decided to delete the number and leave the ball in her court.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I think its fear of rejection.
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
Ok then that tells me my earlier gut about it all may be right. I think you have a solid plan. Fear of rejection is normal but remember this is her business and she made me very good at what she does.
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
Forgive the typos above. she may be good at what she does.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
In short what would you advice me to do?
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
Dust off and move on and look for someone that can provide real love with mutuality and deeper connection.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Yep i will certainly do that as i can't exhaust my efforts on something that's not willing to put the same effort.
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
Exactly. I like that strength. Get out there and enjoy life.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Will do. your advice is invaluable as it saves me from making a massive mistake.
Expert:  TherapistJen replied 1 year ago.
It is my pleasure. Thanks for being open about it all. Come back and request me anytime and please take a moment to click on the rating tab to rate my support. Thanks so much in advance.
Jen
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