Thanks for writing to me. I am sorry to hear of the difficulties....to be direct, it is very hard when one changes from amicable to cruel and slanderous. The best thing from an emotional and relational standpoint is to maintain an even keel and not engage or play into the insults, name calling or accusations that may occur. The knee jerk reaction might be to come back with name calling and accusations as well. If you are well protected from a legal stand point and believe your rights and finances are being represented properly by your legal team, then you have no need to engage further. The more calm and disengaged you can be from the process the better things can be for you. We can't change what she does or says, but if we don't react to it, then we can minimize further conflict.