Hi. Thanks for being so open. It sounds to me that if you are asking the question then it means you desire to share it with her. If that is the case then being open about it and helping her to understand it all could go a long way. If you have a loving and supportive relationship then I would hope she can be open to hearing it and your feelings and support you in whatever way you need around this or any other issue.
That can only be answered by you and your comfort level is and what you need around it all. If you desire to be seen, then you will know that. I know living in secret can be very tough so check in with yourself as to what you desire around it all and what will keep you most safe.
I am in the profession to understand people's feelings and behaviors and not fund them funny, but rather to be inclusive of all people and styles. Do others feel the same way? Some will and some won't...sadly that is the world we live in.
*find sorry for the typo above.
You will make the choice that feels right for you. I wish you the best. Be well.
Do what feels right for you. Only you can decide what you want to do. Wishing you all good things.