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Sounds like you did a great job being open about your feelings and trying to chat with him. I am not sure if he is n the same page with how he feels because if he was he would have replied, especially since you were so open about your anxiety. It would be very caring to reach back out and let you know all is okay or that if he wasn't interested at least inform you of that. So, in the mean time take deep breath and focus on you. I would not text again and see if he reaches out to you.
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I understand your anxiety and I have read what you wrote to him...give him some space. Nothing to feel like a fool about...I am impressed you can express yourself and if he isn't able to respond to it, then it has more to do with whom he is rather than you. So, sit tight and see if he reaches back out and if not, hold your head up high and begin to move forward. I would also think about getting yourself some support...a therapist to look at this anxiety so you can live a bit freer from these painful feelings that grip you.
And he may also have been looking for different things than you were and after intimacy he was ready to move on. Sad if that is the case, but again try not to personalize it all and keep your head held high and get yourself support so you can move forward.
Just because he is chatting with others doesn't mean it is you...it just helps you see whom he is and what he is looking for and it appears that it just may be sex. Your feelings are normal and they will ease in time. There are many that behave like this and you must not personalize it. Feel your feelings and they will ease...find some other things and people whom you enjoy and immerse yourself with all of that.
I know it is easy to second guess your actions, but rather than feel silly about it, try and feel proud that you were able to put our your feelings and if he can't respond to that in a caring way, that has more to say about him than you. Go to work with your head up and let things fall into place as they will.
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