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I do remember you and what you were going through with this. Since you were broken up back then you were free to do as you pleased and so you did. You have been forthright about talking with someone else and if it doesn't feel comfortable to have shared more then that is okay...you are allowed to have boundaries around what was your private life when you weren't together. If he continues to ask about it, I would ask him what is upsetting to him about it so you can process those feelings and get through it.
I can understand his desire to know more, but it can be felt as a bit intrusive and you are allowed not to share every detail....you were not together and had a private life.
I am always for open communication without lies, and I also believe in boundaries and you were open with him about it and leaving out the gory details is your call and felt important for you for it to be that way so trust what you needed around this.
I think you didn't give all the details because you just didn't want to and you are allowed to have that space....
I don't look at this as right and wrong and more about what you felt you needed around it and you shared what felt most comfortable and if at any point it doesn't feel comfortable you get to decide to offer more. Saying something could make it hard and not saying something can make it hard...or the reverse and that is why I say trust what felt right for you and move forward and enjoy this new time with him.
I think saying more right now could put a little kink in things so trust in what you felt and try and rebuild some good connection between the two of you.
I do have a sense of you and do believe there will be some guilt and I don't want it to consume you. So if being open about it all and letting him know why you were afraid could be beneficial for your personal growth.
There was nothing wrong in how you met and you did not do anything wrong and you did not betray him.
I await any further thoughts.
Ok, so you are clear...I think this last statement of yours shows you that you are fine where you are. So move forward and don't look into the past....be open and communicative and build a new and healthy way of relating.
I am always here for you when you need.
Thank you for the kind words. I love what I do and love to be able to be supportive.