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I am sorry to hear of your pain around this break up. I hear how you love her. she asked for space in the past and you weren't able to give it to her and so she has pulled away completely. Your best course of action right now may be to respect her now and give her that space. I know you want to show her you have changed and this is the way to do it...give her the space she needs and if she misses you and desires to reach back out let her do that. I would continue to stay sober and work on yourself so you can be all that you desire. I know you feel that if you give her that space that she is lost forever, but right now as things are the relationship is lost so giving her what she has asked for shows her you are listening and caring.
You are doing great. Nothing to feel silly about...you have love and that is a beautiful thing. so let's give it some time and see how it all goes.
No way to know for sure but I think she means that yes. Does it mean that with some time and space she won't come back? IT is possible but we can't know for now but I do think we need to take her words and desires at face value and that is that the relationship is over.
She may have been keeping things inside for a long time and then reached the point where she just wanted out and then you contacting her when she asked for space could have made her decision more firm.
Yes so now you continue to work on yourself and let things be as they will.
I would not play any game and acting uninterested would not be accurate. I think sending her a birthday card is thoughtful and if she asks you not to do that again, you must respect that.
I hope things work out for you and you continue on your road to caring for yourself. I wish you well and am here again in the future if you need.
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