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I am so sorry to hear this...it seems as if he is either wanting to come back to you and doesn't know how to discuss his feelings or he is still trying to control you even while you are not together. Are you able to limit your contact with him?
It sounds like he is having a hard time with his decision and still wants to be in a bit of control about your comings and goings. Stability is great for your son but also having time with his Dad is also good for him. Try as best you can to keep contact with him only about your son and you can let him know that is how it needs to be if he no longer desires to be with you. If you still want to be with him then let him know that once again....not with begging and pleading but in a matter of fact way so that he is clear what you want and if his answer is no, then you can let him know the only contact should be about his son.
I think the letter is great and it seems by all that you say, that giving it to him would be a good idea. It might relieve a lot of stress for you and maybe even give some closure for both of you. Then you can say to him each time he contacts you that you prefer the contact to be only about your son.
I absolutely understand your desire to get him back. I would then let him reach out to you become and steady because it is quite possible he is missing you and that is why he's reaching out so frequently.
You may just need to come back in his own way and his own time. His continuous contact indicate that he may want to still be with you and is working out just some conflicting feelings in his mind. So let him be let him contact you and Be steady.
Right now you both have different desires and needs. He wants one thing and you want another. There is no way to force him to be where you are. So again just let things play out the study and become and let it all play out.
Yes. I have read all of them.
It's more of the same stuff. I'm reaching out him texting and you wanting more. I have read all of them and again it is all the same behaviors. The best you can do is to remain calm and study and let him go through this and see what comes out as you move along.
Let me know how else I can support you. Be strong be calm and be patient. One way or another it will reveal itself as to whether he will come back to you or whether he won't. I know how hard it is to sit in that space of Unknowing but it is your only choice. If he feels pushed he could go further away from you
I have given several suggestions to you. The first was to let him know what you want so that he is clear, not to beg not to plead but just to let him know what your boundaries are. Then I suggested that you only have contact with him regarding your son. I also suggest that you remain steady and calm and let him decide whether he can or can't come back. Those are very actionable steps although it may not feel that way for you because of how much pain you are in. they are actionable steps for you during this very difficult time. There is nothing you can say to him that would cause him to come back now and if you do say too much it could push him away. I have given you all those suggestions. But I do understand that it is difficult to take all of that in as suggestions because you want that answer that will just make him come back. Again I understand you are in pain.
It has been so tough for you and I truly feel for you. Yes as best you can ride out the storm. Don't push him to meet in a public place or talk because he isn't ready and I worry for you that that will push him away. He needs all of the control right now and if you're able to give that to him then try that. You are correct he needs to miss you he needs to feel like he has lost his family may be in order to come back. I know it is not easy but right now it is the only course of action.
Please be strong and know that I am out here rooting for you your baby and getting your family back. Please take a moment to click the rating faces to rate my support. I know there was no magical answer but your rating reflects my support. You are not charged again for offering the rating rating it allows me to receive credit for my support. Thanks for understanding.
Ask to meet somewhere neutral and if he refuses and you meet him at your place and he starts raising his voice just sit quietly until he calms down. Dont react to the anger, remain calm and steady.
I hope so too.
If you are comfortable with that and you believe that he can do a great job then sure I think it is good for all those involved for him to have that contact and also for your child.
Be well and be strong. Thank you for the positive rating.