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I'm new to this. My girlfriend of 14 months has just broke

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Hi, I'm new to this. My girlfriend of 14 months has just broke up with me because she says she's not a lesbian. She's never been with a girl before me but 14 months surely that's not right. I have met all her family and friends she's met all mine too I'm a little lost at the moment what should I do. Thanks in advance

1​1-21-17

Hello:

I understand that this may be disappointing

for you.

However, it is most likely more of an personal identity

issue with your ex-girlfriend, than about you or

anything you may have done. (Or did not do.)

Whenever there is a break-up regardless

of the reason(s), it is very normal that people

start feeling a little lost.

Although fourteen months may seem like a long

time, it is clearly not in the same ballpark as

a duration of two, five, ten years, etc.

It is better that this occurred now, than many

years down the road.

Getting over a break-up can be a painful, and

it will take some time.

There are ways to help the healing process.

You can consider joining a group where you

can talk about this with other people who may

have experienced a similar situation.

It may be a good idea to look for a group where

the person who is in-charge is a legitimate

mental health professional.

Or, you can opt for an individual counseling situation

with a professional, where you can discuss this matter

on a one-to-one basis.

If you decide to pursue any of these options;

a good place to start is with your own

physician, or the local hospital's referral service.

If finances are a factor, then you should explain this upfront;

and perhaps they will be able to recommend options

which are more affordable.

Hopefully, these options will allow you to work through

​the healing process so you don't unintentionally miss out on

other opportunities to meet that 'special person.'

​Good luck.

_______________________________________

*Legal Disclaimer: The information provided above, is general information only and is not intended to serve as a long, or short term, professional relationship. By providing the above information, I am not engaging in a 'relationship designee - client relationship' with you. The above information is only intended to provide general information. The fee that you may pay me, is for general information only. No part of this disclaimer can be reproduced, or copied, without the express consent of Rosemary S., the owner.

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​and additional note at bottom.

1​1-21-17

Hello:

I understand that this may be disappointing

for you.

However, it is most likely more of an personal identity

issue with your ex-girlfriend, than about you or

anything you may have done. (Or did not do.)

Whenever there is a break-up regardless

of the reason(s), it is very normal that people

start feeling a little lost.

Although fourteen months may seem like a long

time, it is clearly not in the same ballpark as

a duration of three, five, ten years, etc.

It is better that this occurred now, than many

years down the road.

Getting over a break-up can be a painful, and

it will take some time.

There are ways to help the healing process.

You can consider joining a group where you

can talk about this with other people who may

have experienced a similar situation.

It may be a good idea to look for a group where

the person who is in-charge is a legitimate

mental health professional.

Or, you can opt for an individual counseling situation

with a professional, where you can discuss this matter

on a one-to-one basis.

If you decide to pursue any of these options;

a good place to start is with your own

physician, or the local hospital's referral service.

If finances are a factor, then you should explain this upfront;

and perhaps they will be able to recommend options

which are more affordable.

Hopefully, these options will allow you to work through

​the healing process so you don't unintentionally miss out on

other opportunities to meet that 'special person.'

Lastly, I always aim to give the best possible service

when answering questions. I hope this information has

been helpful.

​Good luck.

_______________________________________

*Legal Disclaimer: The information provided above, is general information only and is not intended to serve as a long, or short term, professional relationship. By providing the above information, I am not engaging in a 'relationship designee - client relationship' with you. The above information is only intended to provide general information. The fee that you may pay me, is for general information only. No part of this disclaimer can be reproduced, or copied, without the express consent of Rosemary S., the owner

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