My advice was that an experienced solicitor deal with the PF with a view to explaining the position and producing a medical report with a view to getting the charges dropped. It is no surprise that they won't drop the charges if you have tried to deal with this yourself. Please instruct a solicitor for your fiancée. As regards the residency order, your wife would have to demonstrate that it was no longer in the best interests of the child that the residency order remain in force and that she should get a residency order. The mere fact that there is a pending charge arising from a minor domestic incident is not sufficient to merit such a variation, in my opinion.