Many thanks for the reply. It is pretty much what I thought but can I just check 2 specific things with you please?
1. Not looking to get the 17k back, just the 6k difference between what they have offered and what my son is entitled to although I'm guessing that doesn't alter anything
2. If we hadn't have given them the 17k, the mortgage would not have been approved. The document my wife signed was purely to confirm that we were not going to ask for repayment otherwise they would have exceeded what the bank/building society said was the maximum outgoings that they would consider. Does that not make the gift a contribution to the purchase of the house?
Very reluctantly accept what you say about whatever my son has settled for then that's it, but this does have all the feel of a complete stitch up.
Ok thanks for replying so quickly, much appreciated. My gut feel was pretty much what you have said, but had to find out for sure. Would have kicked myself for the rest of my life if we had missed an opportunity to put this injustice right.
She now ends up with a brand new 4 bed detatched house with all the possible designer nonsense you can imagine. None of which would have been possible without us. We even paid to have the garden done on top of the 17k, so you can probably understand how irritated we are. It's not just the money either, it's been the way we've been treated i.e. Facebook etc, but looks like we're snookered, so just have to swallow it.
Thanks again for your quick turn around