Hi Susan, I am a family lawyer in Scotland. Your situation is fairly typical and arises because the father thinks he should be able to say when he should have contact because he is the absent parent. However, he will have to come to terms with the fact that arrangements have to be adhere to in the best interests of your son and that will become more important as time goes on and there is school and social commitments such as birthday parties etc to content with. If you have tried talking, tried mediation and tried to reach an agreement then you are on your way to the court, unless you can engage a solicitor who will write to him and try to get him to see his own solicitor with a view to negotiating a formal written agreement. That would be my next step of I were you. In other words if you can't talk to him and get any movement then you will have to do this through lawyers. As regards ***** ***** of access a court would award him, that would depend on the circumstances, but a young child needs its mother and I would suggest that limited contact would be the norm, increasing as he gets older. That is what you were doing essentially and I don't see why that should be any different. Happy to discuss further. I hope that helps. Please leave a positive rating so that I am credited for my time.