You were right it is a scam.
The Philippine Consulate got back to me today and declared there is no one in customs detention at that airport - they would have been advised.
It has cost me some 12.5 K GBP
I have pawned my Rolex. borrowed of friend and family to do this.
I am a fool - I trusted. I did some checks on google but they were smart enough to put plus comments about and there were no un-toward comments.,
And you know what? I am relieved - if I had sent an innocent girl down I could not have forgiven myself.
But no I am in serious financial position for a while as I already had some debt before.
I want to catch these people and get them sent down in Chinese Prison - that would be ironic as that is the motivator they tortured me with - and they still try even after.
I have spoken to Chinese lawyer - he says get our police involved - because the Chinese police take notice of international police rather than a foreigner - and that it mat well be possible to get money back
I have a lot of information on them.
Phone reverse look-up location of Ara - which checks out
Bank details Sureways used, conversations, the fact that an identical scam is known to have happened before.
I could not tell from the girl's conversation over hundreds of hours that anything was untoward - even it was very decent - mannerly soft.
If there is anything you can advise I would like to know.
I am deeply hurt and feel sick - that someone could do this so callously - not so much for me but for my faith in people
It will take me a long time to get out of this mess.
And hurt others whom could have had that money.
I have loaded police fraud site with info - but that sight is crap really - often giving internal errors and stopping you adding more.
I will contact the dating site now.
If you have any advice - please help