Thank you for your question, I'm Dr. Dan and I'll try to help you.
You don't need to be worried at this point. Anesthetics can sometimes slow down transit of feces and this can be normal. It can be normal for no stools up to 72 hours or longer. It is not wise to give stool softeners or enemas. We only need to be worried if her appetite drops, or she starts vomiting due to being nauseas. If she continues to be perfectly normal then we don't need to worry about no stool. It will come it just takes time. I hope this helps, if not please feel free to ask more questions, if it did help, please leave a rating.
I would avoid the cream as it will likely bring her attention to the wound more and possibly cause her to lick the cream off.
You are correct mild redness is normal, but weeping yellow or foul smelling fluid is not, so if that occurs that's a warning sign too. It sounds like she's acting pretty normally post surgery.
FYI, I have to sign off here but will be back to answer any further questions you might have in about 2 hours or so. Thanks!
You are quite welcome.