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May I ask the sex of your girlfriend's dog?
The best way to minimize the tension is to let it be known the heirarchy of the home is as you mentioned
With this, that means your dog gets fed first, goes through doorways first, gets greeted and treats first
it is male, both dogs have been neutered
If there is a scuffle not reprimanding your dog (which as an alpha of your girlfriends dog it is not his place but he should still not be reprimanded for it) but laying down your girlfriends dog on his side when this occurs (which allows your dog to show dominance in the situation
Also if you all walk together (which is highly advised, the best way to build a bond for them both) allowing your dog to move in front of her dog as an alpha
Typically the most difficult is to not reprimand your dog if there is a scuffle and pull them apart because there is no resolution to the issue
her dog does not try to fight back, and moves out of my dogs way, I forgot to mention her dog is also deaf so does not hear the warning growl my dog give out
Interesting, I am sure her dog senses the tenseness in the situation without the growl (the energy change)
Whose house are you at more regularly?
Her dog might not try to fight back but might make eye contact or have ears forward, a sign that he is not backing down
There are many subtleties besides the physical especially in a dog that has lost one of their senses
we are at hers more often, it usually starts when her dog licks mine, mine gives a warning growl but hers continues to lick. He does it to us humans too
Interesting, where is her dog licking him?
on the anus
Which is a dominant thing unfortunately
Submissive licking is at the lip fold
A dominant dog will smell and lick at the other dog as you describe
So I wouldn't allow this behavior
If he tries, he needs to be reprimanded for it
A submissive dog will present its rear to the dominant dog for smelling at an introduction
so we have to stop the licking
Of this type yes
Not necessarily for you but towards your dog yes
My dogs lick me often but it is in a submissive way
mine seems dominant in other areas so I can see now why this upsets him
Yes, it is a conflict
And his warning is telling your g-friend's dog this is inappropriate but he isn't getting the hint
So you as the alpha need to step in and stop the behavior
at other times they seem ok together, they even share the same sofa and bed at times, it is just after the licking mine gets annoyed
Well it is great that you know the cause and we have something to work with here!
But I would definitely be doing all the other things that I mentioned so it is clear to her dog that order of dominance
thanks I will have a go at stopping the licking
Since her dog is deaf, you might need to cut a leash short (about a foot) while they are together so that if you note her dog is going to lick you have something to grab and snap to stop the behavior (since he is deaf)
they already walk together, we can even give them treats and they will not try to get each others, so I thought it may be something to do with the licking, i will try the short lead
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thats it for today thanks, XXXXX XXXXX come back if nothing changes
Perfect, good luck in your new situation :)
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