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I keep writing, even tho your response didn't show up on this window yet. I remember it well enough.
There's a lot for me to chew on, especially because you have a triplicated family constellation in your dream and comments: Strong mother, one offspring, absent father. I'm not going to try to teach you Jungian depth psychology now, because it takes too much time and typing. I'm going to use your imagery instead.
This tripled family structure is pretty normal for a woman your age; you appear to be going inward as part of your young adult development. The best friend as male suggests that you may be not yet ready for a full-fledged adult marriage, indicated by splitting your erotic energies between two young men.
The dependent young male crawling away from the intruder represents your own masculine side that returns to the womb--that is symbolically becomes "unborn" (going inward, introverted energy) in preparation for being reborn at some later time. So it would be a good time to study psychology, write your dreams down for interpretation, read books about becoming a woman.
The Intruder IS the only representative of the absent father in this inner landscape, and the strong mother only needs to stand up for him to flee. Is your husband (like your best friend) a "soft male" that is very supportive and understanding of women and not very aggressive? What happened with all 3 of the fathers in your 3 family constellations?
It's possible that the women in your life, including yourself, are each doing well as replacing the lost father/husband as the "man of the house," but this may make it harder for you to develop a whole female personality. I wonder if you're in a place in your life where you could do reading and study of psychology (like my wife did at that age)--because some women can't because they're in graduate school or they're very eager to have a baby. I imagine those mothers could want you to have a baby, but it would not be good for you at this time, because you need to be giving new birth to yourself instead. If you do want to look into some psychology of womanhood, I suggest Knowing Woman, a Feminine psychology Irene Castillejo.