She has a housing association house in her name which she swapped for her council house, that she received just after I moved out. She had been on the waiting list for years before that. I have a life tenancy on a small flat on a quaker estate.
There are no major differences in our lifestyle financially, tho she has had debt problems for years and was bankrupt(or insolvent) a couple of years before the child was born. I have paid Wonga.com a few thousand in all over 3 occasions for her recently. I give her 130 a week in cash and pay all her bills, and buy and service her car. Maybe 12,000 a year in all.
She gets 500 a month Tax credits too.
She is self employed as a ceramicist for this last year. I lent her the money to set up business as she requested 3000, eventually it was nearer 6000. I have for this reason also ended up paying annually for her 4000 rent/council tax now too (which she possibly didn't foresee).
She was unemployed before then tho I suspect she didn't declare the money I was giving her, asking for it in cash. I have bank records of course showing many other payments to cover my dues.
I think the ceramics business helped her to get back on an even keel and stop drinking, but recently she has been behaving oddly again.
I have for 4 years been an IT contractor and am careful with money. My father died recently too and left me a large sum, which she knows nothing of..
I know how it reads, but it's true. I don't know how the law stands but am ever pessimistic.